Release & Re-program: changing patterns

A few months ago, I wrote a mantra that now serves as a great reminder:

I release all that I allowed to hold me back. I embrace all of the possibilities, even those I do not yet fully comprehend. I am capable, courageous and strong. I am free to enter the next chapter fully liberated, open to all the possibilities, and I am on top of the mountain looking out over a field of wildflowers! Life is good.

 

I am sure we can all take a cursory look at our lives and see patterns that seem to play out time and again. I certainly can. I’ve chosen similar themes in relationships, work situations and thought patterns. We are creatures of habit, afterall. What if we chose to break a pattern? What if we named it or tweaked it, or better yet, replaced it?

One of the patterns in my life was to give up my power, both in work and personal relationships. Another pattern was to hold myself back. Because I am both creative and practical/pragmatic, I can comfortably say that I have a number of hang-ups. Perhaps listing them here is not the most productive use of cyber space, but I’ll share my big one in the form of a confession:

My name is Tracy and I am a recovering perfectionist.

As a person in recovery (from perfectionism), I can see that I have held my own self back. I have also created and shaped some of my ideas into amazing classes and workshops that are changing people’s lives. I’ve been able to make this progress because I chose to break negative patterns and re-program myself to think in positive terms.

In retrospect, I see that I started very simple. I started by giving myself permission to let go. I let go of expectations, began to identify and release negative thought patterns, and changed the way I viewed my life and where I found myself in that particular moment. I let go of my concern for how society might view me, and allowed myself to focus on myself. We all use the phrase “take care of yourself” but most of us rarely adhere to such a simple and necessary piece of advice. I love to tell people, “Secure your own oxygen mask first,” because if you are not breathing, you are not very useful, are you?

Do you want to change your life? Are you frustrated with where you are in your career, relationship(s), fitness regimen? How can you affect change without a complete life overhaul? You only need to work on one thing at a time, stay focused and positive, and keep your eye on the prize: making a real change and gaining forward momentum.

If you want to change negative and unproductive patterns, remember to take small, simple steps. Simplicity is key, and if you get caught-up in your perfectionist ways, or any other patterns that hold you back, you will likely feel frustrated and unsuccessful.

Follow these simple steps:

  1. Examine and Name Patterns – Identify where you are frustrated or unhappy. Find the pattern and name it (i.e. Choosing partners who make me feel badly about myself.) That’s it. Nothing more, nothing less. Don’t over-think this. Avoid trying to analyze where it originated. Just find it, name it and move on (to Step 2).
  2. Recite a Mantra (Release & Re-program) – Write it out so you can see it and hold yourself accountable. Breathe deeply before and after you say it. Simplicity is key, so here’s an example, adapted and simplified from above: “I release all that I allowed to hold me back. I am open to all the possibilities.” Don’t get hung-up on the small details. Be broad if it’s too painful to delve into your psyche. Say it until you believe it deep down and it’s boring because you’ve outgrown it. This could take a few days, weeks, months or even longer (I used one of mine for about a year before I truly believed it)
  3. Build Momentum – Choose one thing to concentrate on. It could be anything: setting-aside 5 minutes for yourself every day, adding exercise to your life, starting a job search or switching from soda to water. Really, just the one thing. Work on it for a few days or a couple of weeks, then step back and observe. Note if your life feels or looks any different. Small changes can have an amazing ripple effect, so just choose one thing, commit to it, and watch yourself grow!

I wish you the best as you change your life, one pattern at a time. Believe in yourself, trust in the process, however difficult it may feel at the time, and know that every pattern you change will move you forward. Keep in mind that change can be small and gradual.

Blessings. Gratitude. Love.

Advertisements

About powerstrengthgrace

I lay out my intention for this blog: to share my experiences with others and direct my clients here for their personal growth. I hope to show the reader that one can be mindful without having to go to extremes. Balance and simplicity are key, and I have learned that valuable lesson time and again. About me: First, I am a mother. Secondary, but also very important: entrepreneur, fitness professional, business woman, writer, public speaker. I live in the DC metropolitan area and have created a fulfilling life for myself and my children. My career path has been interesting and varied. I have worked in research & management for a telecoms association, managed health clubs, consulted on housing market development in third world nations, and finally, have become self-employed in corporate wellness and private lifestyle management coaching. I hope that you take something with you every time you visit, and I thank you for sharing with friends, co-workers and family members.
This entry was posted in Abundance, Alone Time, Celebration, Closure, Comfort Zone, Conflict, Core Belief, Determination, Encouragement, Exercise, family, fitness, Forgiveness, Friends, Girlfriends, Help, Infidelity, Inspiration, Integrity, Jobs, Law of Attraction, life coaching, lifestyle management, Listening, Love, Luck, Manifestation, Marriage, meditation, energy, chanting, workout,, Money Management, Motivation, natural medicine, New Beginnings, Passion, Patience, Peace, personal growth, Physical Exercise, Pleasure, Power of Receiving, Power of Words, Procrastination, Relationships, relaxation, Respect, Responsibility, Self Improvement, Self-Help, Smile, Spirit of a woman, spirituality, Stress, The Four Agreements, Think Big, Truth, Uncategorized, Visualization, Weight Loss, women, Yoga. Bookmark the permalink.

10 Responses to Release & Re-program: changing patterns

  1. bet365 says:

    hi!This was a really impressive theme!
    I come from uk, I was fortunate to find your topic in baidu
    Also I obtain a lot in your website really thanks very much i will come daily

  2. Pingback: Free Your Mind (and the rest will follow!) | Powerstrengthgrace's Blog

  3. Pingback: Taking Ownership: Change your three-letter attitude | Powerstrengthgrace's Blog

  4. Alix JoyTree says:

    very well presented …
    true …sometimes … we tend to ‘over think’ things … am not sure it is the cause of some ‘hang ups’ and indecision that might lead to inaction.
    we know that thinking is a good thing – the method and basis for our thinking is important [what are the foundational designs of our thinking processes?] what are they based on? is the person deeply religious [that forms the mindset – thinking]. No?

  5. Indeed. I mentioned in another reply that I was raised in a strict religious environment. That shaped a lot of my thinking. I do not adhere to the rigidity and dogmatism that was associated with my childhood at all, but I have learned a lot about where my patterns originated. I have coached a number of people to change the way they view the world, with their own vision and hopes, in order to create forward motion. Some of the lessons I’ve learned in my personal and professional life have been thru another form of the same scenario re-playing. So in my soul-searching and yearning to create my own happiness that wasn’t dependent upon any other person or any other circumstance, I learned how to un-do the patterns that had me thinking negatively, keeping me from moving forward. Some of the work associated with un-doing patterns was incredibly painful, and required a tremendous amount of courage, strength and faith (in myself and in others) and I see the path unfolding every day.

  6. Alix JoyTree says:

    your understanding of all the above is truly inspiring.

  7. Pingback: Keep it Cool: FAN yourself with love | Powerstrengthgrace's Blog

  8. Pingback: What To Do? The answer lies in the question | Powerstrengthgrace's Blog

  9. Pingback: What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do: Coach Tracy’s guide to problem-solving | Powerstrengthgrace's Blog

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s